Domestic Violence is Preventable

Domestic violence is

preventable

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We can live in a world without domestic violence—if we build it

Domestic violence is too big for any one of us to solve, but all of us can work for change.

Popular culture needs to shift how it shows romance

See the big picture

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We need to change the way we think about romance

In popular culture, we recognize domestic violence if it is severe or physical. Unhealthy behaviors that don't fit that mold are often ignored, or even romanticized. A few examples:

It's common in romantic comedies for one main character to keep pursuing someone who said "No." In the movies, this often leads to love, but in real life, it can be dangerous and scary.

In many areas of popular culture, we equate love with sacrifice and pain. But real love builds you up; it doesn’t break you down. Of course heartbreak hurts—but love shouldn’t.

A whirlwind romance is often presented as a fairy tale—but if someone "love bombs" you, with intense adoration before knowing you, that can be a red flag for future abuse.

The idea that love means "possessing" someone else is tied to our culture accepting dominance as normal. Healthy relationships have room for independence.

What do you see?

When you watch and absorb media and entertainment, pay attention to how relationships are portrayed. What seems healthy? What seems problematic? Talk with your friends and family about what you notice.

Governments need to ensure access to safe housing

Prioritize housing to create health

Fear of homelessness is one of the top reasons survivors return to (or never leave) a person who is harming them

All of us need a roof over our heads. For survivors, that can mean staying in an abusive relationship just to keep themselves and their children housed. Access to safe, affordable housing is critical for families’ health and preventing domestic violence.

Learn about housing work

Learn about organizations that are working on the connections between housing, financial security and domestic violence:

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Funders need to put more money toward domestic violence

Invest in a violence-free future

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We need a full range of crisis intervention, healing, and prevention solutions to end domestic violence.

California dedicated NO new funds toward preventing domestic violence in 2022. Your voice matters, and decision-makers care what you think.

Make your voice heard

Ask your elected representatives what they are doing to end domestic violence. Find your California state representatives here:

Find Your California Representative

Domestic violence is one of the leading causes of homelessness in women

We need to talk about domestic violence

End the silence

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End the silence around domestic violence

Understanding of domestic violence is growing—two thirds of Californians realize that domestic violence needs to be discussed and addressed at a societal level. But, there is still room to improve: one third of Californians in a recent survey felt it was a private family matter, or weren’t sure.

It’s a private matter

18%

I’m not sure

15%

The root causes of domestic violence go far beyond any individual family, so we need to change how we talk about it: openly, with compassion, and an understanding of its scale.

Change the conversation

Whether it’s starting a conversation with your own family around the kitchen table, or spreading the word on your social media, the more that we all bring the issue of domestic violence into the light, the better we can address it. Each of us can play a role in creating healthy conversations around domestic violence: where survivors can come forward without shame or fear, where families can heal, and where the cycle can be broken.